Many Caribbean Tainos prepare for a “good death” when they are aware that the time is drawing near for them to cross over. It involves the preparation, planning and settling of affairs so as not to burden those left behind. They make final preparations for who will become the matriarch or patriarch of the family and set aside funds for the continued support of the community and children. All outstanding affairs are brough to order.

 

It is considered shameful for a Taino elder not to make these preparations, and thus be a burden on the living. Family and friends visit more frequently, not only to remember past joys and excitements, but to help the elder plan for life in Coaybay [The afterlife]. The spouse will often be given permission to remarry and have more children to ensure the lineage will continue and to retain happiness in the home.

 

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