Love, Time and Patience Build Resilience
Sep 01, 2020 06:17PM
By Ann Fieilds
Raising resilient kids starts with resilient adults. Being a role model for our children during this challenging time is really important. Show them what it is like to be flexible, supportive and calm. They will look to parents for cues how to act. They will remember our behavior during this time. Children will look back at 2020 someday and tell their children and grandchildren what it was like to live through a pandemic.
Resilience comes from learning to manage
our emotions. Understanding that we must feel “all of our feels”, learning to
work through them and not push them aside. Being aware of what our body feels
like on the inside with each of our feelings is a great place to start.
Practicing mindfulness is extremely helpful
in understanding our feelings and building resilience such as taking a few deep
breaths in a quiet place, taking a few moments to connect with ourselves and being
non-judgmental about how we feel. Practicing mindfulness as a family is helpful,
too. Being a role model of mindfulness, taking that deep breath and pausing
before a reaction, whether it be a situation of anger or disappointment, will
show our children how to handle tough situations.
Make sure children have a group of
supportive friends; that connection is really important. They cannot always see
their friends in person right now, but encourage them to call or text them so
they stay connected.
Building resilience begins with building
confidence. Kids yoga uses positive affirmations. Positive self-talk is so
important for children to learn. “I am smart, I am kind, I am amazing,” are
some examples of positive affirmations that help children develop resilience.
Through the use of affirmations, we learn to be kind to ourselves. When we are
kind to ourselves, we are kind to others.
Developing resilience in children takes
time, love and patience. Resilience is like planting a seed and watching it
grow, one mindful breath at a time.
Ann Fields, RYT-200, the founder of Peaceful Poses Kids Yoga, is certified as a registered yoga teacher and registered children’s yoga teacher, with training in teaching exceptional needs children, trauma informed yoga and yoga for toddlers through teens. For more information, visit PeacefulPosesKidsYoga.com.